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Sunday, 5 June 2016

Think Maturely

I came across this image in Twitter recently. It tells us, very simply, the difference between how mature and immature people think. Here, have a look:

How immature thinking compares with mature thinking.

Immature Thinking...

Immature thinking is the frame of mind that talks about unlimited entitlement without effort. We can see that the immature mind will demand and demand, without any thought of responsibility. I know a certain somebody like that, somebody who is very close to me, who when I say, "Perhaps I can comment a little on what you said just now...." She will reply, "Don't challenge me! You will offend me!"

The immature mind is a mind that is full of demands, without reciprocation. The immature person demands things his way, or her way, without care for what others think. If you even dare suggest to her that you think she or he is wrong, you're going to be in trouble.

That's immature thinking. A way of thinking that is dangerous to the self, and to those around you. If you have an immature mind, I hope you wake up soon, because you're putting yourself and those around you in serious danger.

Mature Thinking....

Mature thinking is the frame of mind that seeks to take responsibility. The mature person knows that we are all born in this world without any entitlement, so everybody has to make their own success. They hustle and work hard, and some of their efforts eventually will succeed. Not every effort will succeed, but the most important thing to remember is that: The winners are winners, because they did not give up in the face of failures. As for those who failed and gave up? They were never counted among the winners.

The mature mind knows and understands, success is in one's own efforts. And being responsible means, as well, taking responsibility for right and wrong views. So, a responsible person will listen first, and try to understand, even if the view being proposed is different from what they believe. Listen first, because you might be wrong. And if you are wrong, wouldn't you like to be pointed in the right direction? But don't listen blindly, because there are many false prophets in this world.

Mature thinking is much needed.

How do you transition from immature thinking to mature thinking?

That's a great question, and I only wish I knew the answer. When I first started this blog, I saw a space for me to share with readers what I learn about frugality. But I am maturing. Frugality, I see, is only part of the problem. If your problem is debt that never ceases rising, perhaps you have to change your mindset first, before anything else. Change your mindset to one that is more mature, because maturity helps you to accept trade-offs as an expression of responsibility. 

Being responsible for yourself, without relying on others, is an expression of maturity and self-reliance.

In contrast, that special somebody I know relies too much on me, for money, goodies, enjoyment, and everything else. I wish that she would become more mature, and realise that I am not able to provide everything. There is a limit to what I can give. But there is no limit to what she will take. I only know that she will have matured a little bit more than today, when she begins to be more responsible than she is today.

It's an on-going task, and I still try to share my views with her, at the risk of "challenging" her. (I never challenged her, because her opinion was never carved in stone. You "challenge" someone when they are the supreme law maker or policy maker. When they are not, you are perfectly within your rights to express your opinion -- even your opinion that they are wrong.)

Before Concluding...

Dear Reader,

I hope that you will learn maturity in thinking. How about doing this exercise? Repeat the sentences below three times each. And pause for five seconds at the end of each sentence. Before you know it, you'll be able to internalize the teachings of the Maturely Thinking Mind.

Here, say these sentences three times each, and pause five seconds each time you end a sentence.

  1. I must earn
  2. It's about others
  3. Challenge my views
  4. I will buy my own stuff
  5. Nobody owes me anything
  6. I'm responsible for my own success.

To your success, and mine.