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Thursday, 9 March 2017

Happy International Women's Day

Time to Celebrate the Women in Our Lives

It is a wonderful thing to have a woman in your life. For most men, it implies that a certain creature has taken control of your household, giving it order and cleanliness. Most men, it would seem, are not tidy creatures. And many women, it would seem, are tidy creatures. Spick and span. Clean and lean. 

But there are also women who aren't so tidy. These are the women who are a bit more messy. And sadly, messy in behaviour sometimes also translates into messy minds.

But they are the women we love, because they are the mistress of the household, and they take charge over every little detail that the busy man may overlook. In his hectic schedule, the busy man becomes the business man. The business man has no business interfering with the business of his mistress. (Who, even though so vaguely described, can only refer to the one and only love of his life: His wife.) The man has to butt out, and cut out his nonsense. He has to hand the keys of the house to her, and let her make it a home.

The mistress of the house must be a frugal woman, otherwise the household will flounder.

The Perfect Woman

There really isn't one. There, I've said it: There's no perfect woman.

But having said that, I feel that I must also add that the woman in your life can, despite her flaws, do well. And so she should. Because when she does well, she does well for you, and your offspring. 

And so the Bible tells us in Proverbs Chapter 31, that there are certain qualities that a prized wife should have. The Bible says, "A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies." (Prov. 31:10) I'm not aware of how much rubies cost, but I'm under the impression that they are not as expensive as diamonds. 

The good and noble wife brings her husband good, not harm, "all the days of her life". (Prov. 31:12) Note, the Bible says that it is during the duration of her lifetime only. And one wonders what happens when the good wife expires: Does the good life end too?

The good and noble wife does a little bit of business, too. "She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night." (Prov. 31:18). I'm a little confused. Is her trading in the context of her own business, or is she merely manning her husband's business? Nevertheless, despite this uncertainty, I know many good women who carry on small businesses and support their households: Baking cakes, selling trinkets and art supplies, and even running online shops. 

The good and noble wife "fears the Lord" (Prov. 31:30) and "is to be praised". For surely, in her fear of God, she will not harm her husband. Instead, with every waking breath, she will put his interest first. And that is, as it should be.

The Quarrelsome Woman.

There comes a time when a man may fall in love with a woman, and marry, only to find out, too late, that she is the disagreeable sort. Perhaps she is quarrelsome. Perhaps she has other bad habits. And so these types of woman are lamented in the Proverbs. 

For example, the Bible says that "the earth trembles" when there is "a contemptible woman who gets married". (Prov. 30:23). To use the word "contemptible" (NIV) is a rather harsh approach. Because such a woman by definition of the word "contemptible" is bound to be a woman who is hateful, disgraceful, and mean. Such a woman, I think, is mean and evil not only towards the outside world, but also towards her own family members. Such a woman is to be avoided at all costs.

The Bible knows exactly how difficult it is to deal with quarrelsome women. "A quarrelsome wife is like the dripping of a leaky roof in a rainstorm", says the Bible, "restraining her is like restraining the wind, or grasping oil with the hand." (Prov. 27:15-16). 

But notice that despite this "quirk" in the nasty wife's behaviour, the Bible does not tell the husband to get rid of her. Such an act, such as divorce, is condemned. Men are not allowed to divorce their wives unless she is guilty of adultery (Matthew 5:32). Nor can they marry divorced women (Matthew 5:32).

It seems that the best way forward for the Christian husband is to bear the whims and foibles of the quarrelsome wife. But such a situation is hardly fair for the husband. But fear not. God sometimes sends challenges, to try us. Perhaps with such challenges, we men are moulded into better beings by God.

And so , it would appear to be right to appreciate and accept the wife, in whatever situation she is in, whether quarrelsome or not. Because only love can change her heart -- God's love.


Let us wish you, dear reader, Happy International Women's Day.